Naughty or Nice?

Getting Off the Nice List

We live in a society that values being nice above all else. And ironically, it also feels justified in judging and hating you if you’re not nice. Nice, of course, being defined by their standards of appropriate self-censorship and pc language.

We live in a culture where a popular celebrity signs off a talk show with a reminder to be kind to one another. You know, while promoting all of the elite’s bs with smiles and laughs, practical jokes and giveaways. And don’t forget the dance parties!

We live in a secularized religious belief system that promotes a pseudo spiritual ideology to love unconditionally. You know, with banners that demand “no pedo bashing”. Because #loveislove. Right?

Politically correct culture has spread like a disease among the masses, creating a certifiably insane screaming at the sky left, and a complicit through silence, don’t ask, don’t tell right.

If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.

For the silent majority, being nice means keeping the conversation limited to the weather, a favorite recipe and a sales pitch disguised as sponsored content. Much of this involves pretending to like people they disagree with and being polite to people they secretly dislike. Tolerating people they don’t respect, trust or admire. Feigning ignorance or outright lying to make sure people don’t find out what they really think. Staying neutral and fitting in by saying and doing what has been deemed socially acceptable and given the stamp of approval by the thought police.

Playing nice is a role they take on to get through their day, both at work and at home. Making nice is their modus operendi to keep their job or customers and clients happy, their marriage together or their family intact. Being nice is their way of avoiding conflict and keeping the peace, and as a result, keeping the establishment’s status quo firmly entrenched for the foreseeable future.

It’s only when they are housed in their favorite safe space or bouncing ideas around in an echo chamber and backed up by their like-minded friends or supported by their similarly identifying community, that they criticize opposing points of view from a morally bankrupt position on the left or a morally superior position on the right.

They don’t dare live in alignment with what they know to be true or be authentic in their relationships and interactions with people or speak up about what they see is happening in the world around them. Because people are “gonna find out whose naughty or nice…” and leave lumps of coal in their stocking instead of whatever frivolous consumable is on their materialistic Christmas list this year.

No. They want to be on the Nice List.

But what does it really mean to be nice?

The word nice comes from the Latin nescius, meaning “ignorant, unaware”, literally “not-knowing”, (from ne- “not” + scire “to know”) and the Old French nice, meaning “foolish, stupid, senseless” and then later, “careless, clumsy, weak, poor, needy, simple”.

So, essentially to be nice is to be ignorant, unaware, foolish, stupid, senseless, careless, clumsy, weak, poor, needy, simple.

Only later did nice come to mean “timid”, then “fussy, fastidious”, then “dainty, delicate”, “precise, careful”, “agreeable, delightful” and finally “kind, thoughtful”.

The Oxford Dictionary describes the origin and evolution of the meaning and use of the word as follows:

“The word nice, derived from Latin nescius meaning ‘ignorant’, began life in the fourteenth century as a term for ‘foolish’ or ‘silly’. From there it embraced many a negative quality, including wantonness, extravagance, and ostentation, as well as cowardice and sloth. In the Middle Ages it took on the more neutral attributes of shyness and reserve. It was society’s admiration of such qualities in the eighteenth century that brought on the more positively charged meanings of ‘nice’ that had been vying for a place for much of the word’s history, and the values of respectability and virtue began to take over. Such positive associations remain today, when the main meaning of ‘nice’ is ‘pleasant’ (if with a hint of damning with faint praise; it may yet turn full circle).”

Nice seems like an appropriate code of behavior for the easily offended, systematically oppressed and occasionally outraged, to teach children and preach to the public, while beating people over the head with their socialist or cultural Marxist handbook. Perfect for those who are allergic to facts, who have decided that words are violence and that protecting them from getting their feelings hurt is paramount. Ideal for a generation that was raised to feel so special and entitled, that their fragility earned them the name “snowflake”.

Then, there are those who want to be seen as the good and caring people they are. They don’t want to be accused of being mean and would never hurt people intentionally. But they know that if they talk about what they value, think and believe, they will be reduced to a name, bullied and shamed by the very people who expect everyone to be nice. So, they say nothing and contribute to the artificially climate controlled environment keeping these precious snowflakes from melting.

And then there is the dreaded alternative: naughty.

Naughty from the Old English means “naught, nothing” to be “needy, having nothing,” “nothingness”, “insignificant person”, “the number zero”. It also means “evil, immoral, unclean” and “disobedient”.

No one wants to be reduced to nothing, to have nothing. To be insignificant. To be a big fat zero. And that’s what “nice” people fear the most. Getting removed from the Nice List would leave them with no family, no friends, no clients or customers, no business or income. It would earn them the distinction of being “the mean one, Mr. Grinch”.

So, they smile and nod. Stay silent. And keep being nice.

Dear Nice People,

It’s time to break your silence. Risk all you have for the sake of your children and the future of humanity. Keeping a job or a friend or a reputation as a nice person won’t matter if your silence contributes to the further transhumanization of us.

You don’t have to be naughty. Or nasty. Be kind. Just stop being so fucking nice.

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Pearls of Wisdom is a personal blog of the wisdom writings of Dara Eden that fall outside the realms of feng shui, The 8 Elements and her other personal energy work. Established in 2014, the blog is an expression of her highest values: Sovereignty, Truth, Wisdom & Inner Peace. It’s devoted to increasing awareness, expanding consciousness, bringing knowledge, sharing innerstandings and offering wisdom to the sovereign souls inhabiting the Earth.

Dara Eden is a writer and wisdom keepHER. The name, Dara, means “pearl of wisdom”. Pearls are formed when a microscopic irritant, like a grain of sand, embeds itself within the soft tissue of a shelled mollusk. To protect itself, the oyster or clam covers the invading gritty particle with concentric layers of iridescent crystalline calcium to form treasures, pearls of great beauty and worth. Gifts of the sea, pearls are the oldest known gem and the only gem that does not need to be cut, shaped or polished. Pearls are associated with elegance and luxury and are a symbol of mystery and purity. Pearls represent priceless knowledge, the rare wisdom that begins as a tiny, random, common irritant.