Finding Your Way

Why Your How is Just as Important as Your Why

In a world obsessed with the hustle culture of boss babes and their monetized blog or channels, affiliate links and sponsored content, business opportunities and frequent ads, it’s important to pause and examine not just what you’re doing, but how. Because as the saying goes,

The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.

~Zen proverb

Our time and our energy are finite and precious…at least while we are souls in a human body, living on the earth plane. So, anything we determine to be worthy of us is worth doing well. And part of doing something well is knowing why you’re doing it.

Reflecting on your intentions. Knowing your why. Being honest with yourself about what’s in it for you is essential before pursuing a goal, interest or endeavor.

But starting with your why is only half the story. How you do what you do has to be carefully considered as well. Otherwise, you’re taking action on your goals without determining what you want to do or knowing how you want to do it.

Marketing gurus will tell you to do it this way or that way. The tried and true way. The proven or fool proof way. Their way. Because it works! Or, at least it works for them.

And maybe their way is how you want to do it. Or, maybe…it’s not.

You won’t know until you take the time to reflect on what your highest values are. Your philosophy of life. Your guiding principles. Your standards of excellence for yourself and your work. Your personal morals and business ethics.

It’s not enough to know what you want and why you want it. You have to have clarity about how you want to live. How you want to operate your business. How you will take care of yourself. How you intend to treat people.

It’s not enough to know what your message is. You have to determine how you want to deliver your message.

It’s not enough to know what you want to contribute. You have to find a way to give in ways that honor you and your gifts.

Over the last two years I’ve been studying astrology and the tarot. While developing my own deck of cards and writing the guide for them, I really delved deeply into the meanings and reversed meanings. While reversed cards can represent an opposite or darker meaning, they can also provide a positive take on a card that tends to be more challenging. What I discovered though, is that reversed meanings can sometimes offer even more valuable insight than the upright meanings.

For example, in the tarot, the Ten of Pentacles is a card of achieving financial abundance, accumulating great wealth through hard work, diligence and dedication and fulfilling your material goals. Tens in any suit depict endings, reaching the finishing line, completing a project. When it’s upright, it’s a card of accomplishment, satisfaction and gratitude for a job well done and its rich rewards.

The reversed meaning highlights what you might have done to earn your money and questions how you spent your time and energy to make your financial gains. Did you get overwhelmed or overwork yourself? Let your relationships suffer? Neglect your health and wellbeing? Were the losses along the way, as you steadily achieved financial success, worth it in the end?

We all know people who prioritize making money above everything and everyone else in their life. They will do anything to make money. They see everyone they meet as a prospect, a potential customer or network marketing “builder”. And if something doesn’t work, they do something they like to call pivoting. If they ruin their reputation, they just rebrand themselves and their business, find a new company, niche or target market.

And that might have worked in the past. But as we move into higher levels of consciousness, the games and gimmicks just can’t compensate for the lack of integrity and authenticity. Who people really are shines through no matter how many masks they wear or how many facades they build to falsify the appearance of their image.

I feel like integrity is literally the foundation for the new earth. It can’t be faked. It has to be cultivated authentically in our day to day actions and interactions. It’s not about how we show up publicly anymore, it’s about who we are behind the scenes. 

~ Helen Reid

So, start with determining what you have to contribute. Know your why. Then, put some energy into finding your way. Because the way is just as I important as the what and the why.

Finding YOUR Way

Questions to ask and answer to help you find YOUR way:

• What are my highest values?

• What is my philosophy?

• What are my principles?

• What are my standards?

• What are my business ethics?

• What is authentic to me?

• What will honor my integrity?

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Pearls of Wisdom is a personal blog of the wisdom writings of Dara Eden that fall outside the realms of feng shui, The 8 Elements and her other personal energy work. Established in 2014, the blog is an expression of her highest values: Sovereignty, Truth, Wisdom & Inner Peace. It’s devoted to increasing awareness, expanding consciousness, bringing knowledge, sharing innerstandings and offering wisdom to the sovereign souls inhabiting the Earth.

Dara Eden is a writer and wisdom keepHER. The name, Dara, means “pearl of wisdom”. Pearls are formed when a microscopic irritant, like a grain of sand, embeds itself within the soft tissue of a shelled mollusk. To protect itself, the oyster or clam covers the invading gritty particle with concentric layers of iridescent crystalline calcium to form treasures, pearls of great beauty and worth. Gifts of the sea, pearls are the oldest known gem and the only gem that does not need to be cut, shaped or polished. Pearls are associated with elegance and luxury and are a symbol of mystery and purity. Pearls represent priceless knowledge, the rare wisdom that begins as a tiny, random, common irritant.