Your Mother’s Element

Mother's Day Gift Guide

One of the ways people show their love is to give gifts. Although the majority of annual holidays, promoted by corporations, are centered around excessive consumerism, Mother’s Day tends to be a little less about the presents and more about our presence. Of course, you can buy all the things that companies are trying to sell you. But you can also put some thought into making Mother’s Day special for your mom, with or without the gift wrap.

Mothers usually just want the day off of household chores and cooking or to spend it with their children and family. New moms need a nap and enough alone time for a leisurely bath. Young moms like cards made by their kids and a yummy breakfast made by a loving husband and the father of her children. Middle aged moms are touched by heartfelt expressions of appreciation, kind offers and thoughtful gestures. And older moms feel loved when they are celebrated by their children and grandchildren. For single moms, Mother’s Day can just be another Sunday, especially when their children are little and they don’t have any extended or supportive family.

Taking mom to mid-morning brunch, lunch after church or a nice Sunday dinner is a common tradition for families on Mother’s Day. That way mom doesn’t have to host a family gathering and do any of the event planning, grocery shopping, house cleaning, table setting, meal preparing and clean up. She can just take her time getting dressed up and be taken out to a special meal with all of the people who love her the most in the world.

The Five Love Languages

Knowing your mom’s love language can be helpful when deciding what to get her or planning an event for Mother’s Day. If you don’t already know her love language, ask her. If you do, take that quality information into consideration.

A mom whose love language is acts of service, might like her house cleaned, laundry done or car washed. A mom whose love language is words of affirmation might like to read a handwritten letter or card. A mom who’s love language is physical touch might like a hug, a foot rub or a gift certificate to get a massage. A mom whose love language is quality time might like to get a coffee with her adult child or spend the afternoon watching classic movies with her children. And a mom whose love language is gifts might like some fresh flowers or sentimental jewelry.

Even if your mother’s primary love language is not gifts, you can be a thoughtful gift giver by knowing her personal feng shui element. If you don’t already know your mom’s personal element, you can discover it here. The 8 Elements are associated with certain colors and special interests that can inform your choices when it comes to gifts.

Gifts don’t have to come wrapped and tied up with a bow. Consider gift certificates and gift cards, day passes or concert tickets, annual subscriptions or monthly memberships, health consultations or healing sessions. Or, make your own coupon book of household chores, tasks or errands, child care and a mom’s night off.

Gifts don’t have to be expensive or store bought. If you have a garden, cut some flowers for a bouquet from your own backyard. Make a card instead buying a generic pre-printed one from Hallmark. Paint or draw her a picture. Bake some bread and make her favorite marmalade or lemon curd, jam or butter. Get a few supplies to make some crystal jewelry or essential oil scented bath salts, brownie mix or your own blend of teas. And if you see her in person, give her a hug.

For the woman who has everything, gift her an experience. Water elements may enjoy a day at the lake, beach or hot springs or attending a silent retreat. Mother Earth may enjoy taking a dance or cooking class, sculpting or pottery making class. Hard Wood may enjoy visiting a botanical garden, farmer’s market or nursery. Soft Wood may enjoy forest bathing, walking through an arboretum or attending a team sports game. Hard Metal my enjoy a road trip or train ride, target practice at the shooting range, going to a live concert or visiting an observatory to see the stars. Soft Metal may enjoy going to an art gallery or fine art museum, renaissance fair, theme park, dinner theater or escape room with friends. Mountain Earth may enjoy visiting a natural history museum or doing extreme sports like rock climbing, mountain biking or skydiving. And Fire may enjoy spending the day outlet shopping in a desert resort, visiting historical buildings like the Spanish missions or Catholic cathedrals or going on a pilgrimage to a religious landmark.

Gift baskets are also a thoughtful way to show you really know and love her. Of course you can fill a basket with her favorite foods and drinks or snacks and desserts. Or, you can put together a themed box or basket of things she can enjoy on another day or throughout the year.

Gift Basket

• Art or Craft Supplies

• Coffee & Teas

• Gardening Seeds & Tools

• Gourmet Kitchen Items

• Self Care / Home Spa

• Luxury Bath Items

• Sourdough Bread Starter & Kit

Then there’s the gifts that keep on giving, just like your mom. There are dozens of monthly subscriptions for books or games, plants or flowers, streaming services and video games. There are also monthly subscription boxes filled with wine or beer, coffee or tea, meat or cheese, gourmet or international snacks, crafts and special interests.

Mother’s Day Gift Guide

Water

Element Colors: Black, Dark Blue, Deep Purple, Iridescent

• Earrings

• Pearl jewelry or items made from abalone or mother of pearl

• Black tourmaline, obsidian or bian stone gua sha

• Mug, tea cup or glass water bottle

• Her favorite beverages (coffee beans, tea, wine, water kefir, kombucha)

• Audiobook, album or playlist

• Session: Sound Healing with crystal singing bowls

• Subscription: Audible

• Gift Card: Starbucks, Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf

• Gift Basket: Bubble bath, bath salts and bombs, bathtub caddy tray

Mother Earth

Element Colors: Yellow, Brown (espresso to sand) & Pink

• A heart locket or friendship necklace

• Birthstone or crystal jewelry or crystals

• Amber or rose quartz gua sha

• A comfy two piece athleisure or pj set

• Grounding bed sheets

• Crystal bio mat

• Session: Womb Healing

• Subscription: Wine or Chocolate

• Gift Card: Her favorite restaurant

• Gift Basket: Her favorite foods or desserts

Hard Wood

Element Colors: Green (all shades) & Orange

• A pashmina scarf

• A potted plant (jade, orchid, bonsai)

• A floral wreath

• Jade or wooden gua sha

• Essential oils

• A book or journal

• A handwritten note or handmade card

• Session: Emotion Code Clearing

• Subscription: Book of the Month

• Gift Certificate: pedicure, reflexology or foot massage

• Gift Basket: pedicure set and foot bath or ionic foot bath

Soft Wood

Element Colors: Dark Green & Lavender

• Mala wooden beaded necklace

• Fresh cut flowers

• Essential oil diffuser

• Skin care or makeup

• Amethyst or wooden gua sha

• Dry brush, fascia blaster or bamboo body tapper

• Session: Personal trainer at the local gym

• Subscription Box: Seasonal themed items

• Gift Certificate: Facial

• Gift Card: A book store

Hard Metal

Element Colors: White, Gray, Metallics & Rainbow Colors

• A hair scarf, hat or headband

• Platinum watch or jewelry

• Stainless steel gua sha

• Stainless steel water bottle

• Personalized key chain or luggage tags

• A car wash and detail

• Car or RV accessories

• Luggage

• Monogrammed pillow cases

• Session: Cranial-Sacral

• Gift Set: A personalized pen and letter opener

• Gift Box: Queen for a Day

• Concert Tickets

Soft Metal

Element Colors: White, Gray, Metallics & Pastels

• Metal watch and fashion accessories

• Gold, silver or copper jewelry

• Metal gua sha

• Electric toothbrush and copper tongue scraper

• A game (card, board, video)

• A digital photo frame

• Tech gadgets (charging station, hands free mobile phone devices)

• A boxed set of her favorite book, TV show or film series

• A memoir, autobiography or biography

• Session: Acupuncture

• Monthly Subscription: Hot sauce

• Gift Basket: Her favorite candy or sweet treats

• Tickets to a play or musical, dinner theater or comedy show

Mountain Earth

Element Colors: Yellow, Brown (espresso to sand)

• A ring or bracelet made with crystals or diamonds

• Personal EMF protection

• Tiger Eye or Terahertz stone (crystalline silicon) gua sha

• Hot stone electric massager

• Himalayan salt lamp or votive holder

• A hand massage or back rub

• Meditation pillow

• House cleaning service

• Ceramics

• A book of coupons for doing errands or chores

• Session: Body Code Clearing

• Subscription: Meal kit service

• Annual Membership: Gym, Pilates or yoga studio

• Gift Certificate: Massage

Fire

Element Colors: Red Spectrum

• Leather jacket or boots and accessories

• Animal print anything

• Sun hat or sunglasses

• Blue light blocking glasses

• Wooden gua sha

• Electric mug warmer

• Red light therapy device

• Silk pillow cases

• A book light

• A beeswax candle

• A bird or hummingbird feeder

• Sun catcher

• Session: Akashic Records or Energy Healing

• Subscription: Streaming service to watch her favorite show

If you can’t see your mom in person on Mother’s Day, send her flowers, put your gift in the mail and call her to tell her you love and appreciate her.

Share in the comments below what personal element your mom is and what you plan to give to her this Mother’s Day.

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